I have lived it, was a target, survived it, and have been a target by perpetrators as a professional working in family courts. These experiences have prepared me to continue fighting for you as your expert witness in family court. Early intervention is imperative in every case. Calling out the patterns, educating the court on the damages of shared custody with a perpetrator, and proving the danger is real is my task.

My life and career have long prepared me to travel with you on this journey. My past few years in family courts have included wins and horrible losses. Of course, there are losses until we present more facts, statistics, research, and speak clearly about the reality of invisible perpetrators. These facts are increasingly available and glaring with perpetrator and victim patterns. There are always patterns.

The farther we search your history, the more information we can present about your perpetrator. You have not been his only victim. As with any professional working family court case, I recognize “he” is a statistical reference and does not represent each perpetrator. Domestic violence has intentionally morphed into Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) and Coercive Control (CC) to describe anyone, partner or child, and recognizes differences in all of our different relationships. This means you, whoever you are, and your children, will be fairly represented in your context as “a target.”

The target is a reference to avoid labeling someone as a victim although that is how you are best represented. If you think of yourself as a target, however, it may reduce your feelings of helplessness. I trust you and your instinct, your need for perfect timing on when to leave, how you need to appear or the messages you need to send to your perpetrator to survive, and how that looks historically for you in your court case. Have you left several times? You were not unsuccessful or unwilling to leave. You returned as it was the safest option for you or your children. Did you lie to police who asked you if you had been injured, beaten, or threatened? lt does not matter. Your reasons are explainable to those you believe will judge you. I am glad you lied and lived to read this page.

The focus in your case will be shifted away from why you stayed to why he behaved in that manner. You may not realize it yet, but your time has been tightly controlled. There is a pattern for how you are expected to dress, who you have been “discouraged” to talk with, how the isolation began and was maintained, the financial control, and his patterns over the years with you. There may be medical records or reports from protective agencies. You may have important details on how or when you met, how rapidly the relationship developed, how “crazy” the ex-partner was to him. The partner before her was also “crazy,” I’m sure. If you’ve talked with her, these are all data points, and patterns. 

The accounts of those who did not survive are growing in their stories and in their numbers. Family courts are increasingly being forced to look at their failings for loved ones lost to their disastrous rulings. The statistics worldwide support women and children losing in this archaic and patriarchal system as well as devastating outcomes. These statistics that are followed by state, national, and global bureaus actually underrepresent the reality that cannot be denied. The statistics are credible from public records of abuse, investigations, calls made to law enforcement, injuries, and mishandling of victims.

My job and life experiences, training, education, voracious reading, and work have prepared me to join your fight. I follow and consult with the best of researchers, authors, and professionals on the psychology, the law, and the science that continues to update us on the most recent events. The research continues to build, and current events continue to expose why the systems are not working. When you’re ready, I will join you.

Where do you start? An email explaining your situation is best. We can review your case, see how far you may be into it, and determine the best strategies for moving forward. A consultation with your attorney will likely follow. If you choose the route of an expert witness package, we will determine how much support you need, how often, or how many times. A package, however, will cover as many costs as possible. My goal is to prevent your case from advancing in the family court system, help you and your children gain the protection you need, minimize or eliminate your case as quickly as possible, and help you avoid years of financial and litigation abuse. I hope I can help you with your first steps foward into your new life.